Category: Restoration

Should You Stand for Your Marriage

There are many of you who are in a difficult place right now. Your marriage is in trouble. And all you know to do is stand your ground and believe in the restoration of your marriage. You’re in one of the greatest challenges a person can face in life. And I know some of you ask yourself how much more you can take.

I want you to know Janet and I admire and appreciate every one of you facing this battle. It takes a lot of courage and conviction to take this stand. As many of you know I have been there, and I know too well how difficult it is.

Your story may be different from what I went through. But I understand the delicate balance you have to walk between heartache and hope. One minute your heart is so torn and broken you don’t think you can go any further. Then the next minute your heart is so alive with hope for your future. If you can just hang on a little longer. Read more

Where Marriage Healing Begins

Your marriage is suffering and needs healing. The desperation you feel causes you to try everything you know to reconnect with your spouse. But for some reason your marriage continues to struggle. Are you missing something? What will it take to get the healing process going in your marriage?

The desperation I felt to save our marriage was tremendous. I waited so long for signs of hope and yet so many times my hopes were dashed. I had no problem accepting the fact that I had hurt our marriage. So all I could think of was trying to find some way to fix the problems I helped create. Read more

Is Your Behavior Sabotaging Your Marriage?

My dream was to be married for life. I made that life decision when I was thirteen years old. Yet, I kept sabotaging my dream. My behavior toward Janet and our marriage was a destructive force that nearly destroyed us.

I remember once when I was seeking the Lord in order to save my marriage. The Lord reminded me in a gentle way that I had reaped what I had sown.

I knew right away that He was not putting the blame on me for anything Janet was doing wrong. He was simply letting me see how I had destroyed our marriage with the hurtful ways I had treated her.

Those words broke my heart and gave me hope at the same time. I needed to know that our marriage problems were not all Janet’s fault. She chose to give up on our marriage. But the Lord would not let me get away with pointing all the blame at her. And at the same time, I felt hope. I knew that sowing and reaping could work for my good as well. I knew I should start sowing good seeds of love. Read more

Jack’s Boots

It was my choice for him to leave and with reluctance, he agreed. Jack and I had done this many times before. We knew the routine; we knew how to break up. This was the fourth time and we knew it was final, no question in our minds. There was no slamming doors, no screaming, no ugly words, just a sad calm. And the occasional turning away from each other to gather ourselves as tears would run down our faces.

There was always a cloud of sadness to see him leave and we always cried together. I could never understand that. Many times we could not go through with it, so we would stay together. Although by this time the fighting had ceased and we were trying to rebuild, we found we were too wounded and numb to even know how to rebuild. We knew it was the end, it was over, he was tired and so was I.

We had been through nineteen years of fussing, arguing, fighting against one another and not understanding one another. Over the years we had beat each other emotionally so bad that the only hope for a bright future was to go in separate directions.